I Asked a Filipino Sexologist About Attachment Styles and Sex - Video

Did you know that the way your parents loved you might be influencing your sex life today? ???? From anxious texts to fear of intimacy, your attachment style could be shaping how you show up in relationships.

In this episode, One Down sits down with Dr. Stacey A. Litam, a licensed clinical counselor, sexologist, and Forbes Health advisor, to break down how our childhood dynamics shape our adult romantic patterns. From protest behaviors to avoidant shutdowns, we explore how Filipino-American families, cultural expectations, and generational trauma intersect with love, intimacy, and connection.

Whether you’re chasing closure, pulling away, or working on building trust, this conversation will help you recognize your patterns and start the healing process.

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Timestamps:
0:00 Why do relationships feel like a game?
0:31 Meet Dr. Stacey: Licensed counselor, sexologist, FilAm mental health advocate
1:10 How Filipino parents shape our attachment styles
2:02 Crash course: The 4 attachment styles
3:10 What anxious attachment looks like
4:01 Protest behaviors and chasing validation
5:30 Avoidant attachment and fear of losing independence
6:55 Why anxious and avoidant types attract each other
7:43 What disorganized attachment really means
9:20 Sex, safety, and insecure attachment
11:00 Why secure attachment is sexy
12:10 Healing starts with understanding

Special thanks to Dr. Stacey for joining us in this vulnerable and eye-opening conversation. Let’s keep breaking cycles and normalizing mental health in our communities.

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Instagram: @drstaceyalitam
Website: www.staceylitam.com

Check out Patterns That Remain: A Guide to Healing for Asian Children of Immigrants:
This empowering book blends history, storytelling, and culturally grounded techniques to equip readers with the tools needed to promote self-reflection, personal growth, and diasporic healing.

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Credits:
Director & Host: Leo Albea
Featuring: Dr. Stacey A. Litam
Production Manager: Sarah Albea
Editor: Millaine Matinong
Social Media Strategist: Manna Dellota, Sheena Jawa
Creative Consultant: Jules Cruz

Special Thanks: Shaina Renee Manlangit

Disclaimer:
This interview is intended for educational and cultural storytelling purposes. It is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice. Please consult a licensed professional for your mental health needs.

We believe in the power of culturally competent care and encourage viewers to seek support rooted in their lived experience.